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After childhood trauma it's hard to rely on anything. 😐 when we get into treatment we can finally find something solid under our feet and take over. 🙂 it's difficult and most often needs therapy, but we can re-parent and heal ourselves. we can finally let our child-self rest, and let the adult-self take care of them from now on. 💗
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pic from @theempoweredtherapist 🌼
[image description: on white background there's a pink/yellow gradient coloured circle, on which it says:" dear younger self, thank you for fighting so hard to survive, i'll take over from here". on the top right corner there's a grey blotch with gold coloured shapes on it, in cursive it says:" the empowered therapist".]
#childabuseawareness #childrensmentalhealth #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #traumaticchildhood #traumasurvivor #narcissistabuse #narcissisticparent #narcissistabusesurvivor #gaslighting #traumadisorders #complexposttraumaticstressdisorder #posttraumaticstressdisorder #dissociativeidentitydisorder #dissociationdisorder #traumatherapy #abuseawareness #abusivefamily #toxicfamily #toxicfreehome

comment 10 star 1,770 Yesterday
comment 28 star 891 July 2019

It’s a distgusting, disturbing, pathological condition. it killed me inside for too many years. and now my ex’s psychopathic father ‘senior’ is repeating the abuse, but 10x worse than his son. he has labeled me “lazy” because i stand up for what is right, take care of my kids and for keeping him accountable for his word. he falsely diagnoses me with psychiatric disorders because i defend myself to his lies and verbal abuse. i have called him out on all of his crimes and he denies them and then stops talking s**t about me for a little while.. and then he back to attack me for no reason at all. he has projected his mental illness and psychopathy onto me because he cannot stand being held accountable for his words and actions. can you imagine hurting somebody so badly and then twisting the story around on the other person? i know i could never do that. it’s deeply pathological and unfathomable. i shiver and my heart races when i go to check my emails in fear of verbal attacks. one psychopath is gone only to be faced with another one. i have to be in contact with him for my kids, obviously otherwise i wouldn’t be.
i have repeatedly told him to refrain from the abusive comments and he doesn’t care.
i noticed whenever i make a point or say something logical, he lashes out to tell me i am crazy. this whole situation is trauma all over again.
#demonic #thedevil #psychopathy #sociopathy #abuseawareness #psychopaths #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse #flyingmonkeys #sicko #trauma #liar #noconscience #noremorse #evil #cruel #mentalabuseawareness #gaslighting #nasy #bitteroldman

comment 18 star 594 2 weeks ago

Hidden abuse is insidious, cryptic, and without proper knowledge, very difficult to describe. this is why stage two: education is critical to recovery ~ healing from hidden abuse

comment 38 star 855 Yesterday

This message needs to be spread everywhere! 🌏 even if it's meant in a positive way, saying "trauma is not your fault but healing is your responsibility" is actually a form of victim blaming in my opinion. 😐💭 yes, healing is a lot up to you, but it's really unnecessary to call it anyone's responsibility, it's such a burden to live with trauma already, why put more weight on someone who already has a hard time? 😓 especially when not nearly all traumatized people can get treatment for a wide range of reasons! 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️ this kind of message just makes people feel even less validated and more lonely. we need to support people, not push them. 🌼
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[image description: on a dark blue background there's writing:" trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility". the "but..." part is crossed out, and the comma after the word "fault" is replaced with a full stop, and there's a hand written addition pointing at the full stop, it says "period".]
#victimblaming #blameshifting #gaslighting #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #traumawork #traumatherapy #traumaticchildhood #childabuseawareness #childhoodtrauma #narcissistabuse #narcissistabusesurvivor #narcissisticparent #complexposttraumaticstressdisorder #posttraumaticstressdisorder #cptsdwarrior #cptsdrecovery #cptsdawareness #dissociativeidentitydisorderawareness #dissociativeidentitydisorder

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comment 16 star 901 August 2019

As a therapist specializing in the recovery from hidden abuse, i have been witness to the deep pain caused by a toxic love interest or spouse ~ healing from hidden abuse

comment 14 star 505 17 hours ago

Abuse is never justifiable. whether it's physical, emotional, financial or mental abuse, no one deserves it. 🙅🏼‍♀️🙅🏽‍♂️ people often blame themselves for the bad things that happened to them, especially when the abuse started when they were children. 👦🏼👧🏾💔 sometimes someone else will try to shift the blame on the victim, which is absolutely unacceptable.❌ it's important to remind yourself often enough that you were never the problem, the abuser was. 🌼
~j~
[image description: on a blue-green background there's a drawing of a rainy dark cloud. above it it says:" you didn't deserve what they put you through". underneath reads @mental.sisters ]
#abuseawareness #emotionalflashbacks #mentalabuse #abusiveparents #abusivefriends #childabuseawareness #toxicfamily #traumaticchildhood #traumasurvivor #childhoodneglect #financialabuse #complexposttraumaticstressdisorder #posttraumaticstressdisorder #cptsdawareness #cptsdwarrior #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticparent #narcissistabusesurvivor #gaslighting

comment 34 star 1,686 5 days ago

Does this sound familiar: "she's your mother, you have to forgive her", "you only have one brother, you can't stop seeing them!" 🙄 we've heard many versions of using family ties as excuse for letting abusive behaviour go. 👀 there are lots of bad parents and other toxic family relationships that we are often forced to put up with as kids, and some toxic people try to keep us under their influence in adulthood too.👎🏼 some problems can be fixed, but here i'm talking about situations where family members have caused so much pain that people really get hurt and even traumatized for life. 🤕 it's not fair nor is it true to say that someone has to forgive and forget abuse just because it was a family member that abused them. 🙅🏽‍♂️🙅🏼‍♀️ forgiveness is okay if you want to forgive, no one has the right to make you do that.
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[image description: on light pink background it says:" just because someone is family doesn't mean you have to put up with their toxicity". underneath there's a drawing of a purple poison bottle, and a purple poisonous mushroom]
#abuseawareness #abusiveparents #childabuseawareness #childabusesurvivor #abusivemother #abusivedad #narcissistabuserecovery #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticparent #traumaticchildhood #traumadisorders #physicalabuse #cptsdawareness #complexposttraumaticstressdisorder #mentalabuse #dissociativeidentitydisorder #dissociationdisorder #toxicfamily #childsexualabuse #gaslighting

comment 82 star 3,492 2 weeks ago

On giving tuesday, december 3rd, we're working to raise $100,000 to further our mission. with your help, we can continue to educate, equip, and restore everyone impacted by abuse. ⠀

please remember the m3nd project this year. your donations matter. you can help us expand and reach more people with our work. visit the link in our bio to join the race to m3nd all those affected by abuse in 2020. ⠀

answer this question in the comments: what is the most important thing we can do for abuse victims in 2020? ⠀

#givingtuesday #wemend #themendproject #supportm3nd #abuseawareness #supportabusevictims #survivoradvocate #endabuse

comment 0 star 3 1 hour ago

Walls. everywhere i look.
trapped. everyday i feel it.
you said it was safe here, behind the walls you built.
you told me that i would only be safe here,
you said it as you slammed me against the wall,
twisted my arm behind my back while you told me this was what god wanted,
if i'm safe, why can't i breathe?

but then my hand reached the top of the wall.
i knew that something existed beyond this.
beyond you.
i held on till my hands were numb.
something inside me wouldn't let go.
even though you tried your best to pull me back,
you couldn't keep me here.
i'm at the top of the wall and everything is different.
how didn't i see it before?
i'm not yours to own
i'm not yours to control.
i'm not yours to abuse.
this is the end of my time behind your wall.
this is the end of my imprisonment.
the endless sky is ahead of me,
my father is calling my name,

i am free.

inspired by my amazing, brave, strong mother. she's a survivor. she's my hero. .
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#domesticviolenceawareness #abuseawareness #abuseisabuse #freedom #itsreal #speakup #lookup #survivors

comment 4 star 23 3 hours ago

This is soooooo powerful!!!
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#repost @whenloveisalie
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he wanted me to be happy. he said it all the time. you’d think his wish for me to be happy would match his way of treating me.. but it didn’t the vast majority of the time. that’s why words are just words until they are proven and backed by action. our foundation resembled this demolished home.. broken, moldy, unlivable...
but he wanted us to thrive he said.
the condition of our relationship was dead.
the words kept me there, attached and bonded to the destruction that held me hostage. i would have done anything to keep the relationship i had with him, even if killed me, made me sick, was ugly, moldy, toxic and filthy. him... it was only him.
#traumabonding #traumabond #metaphor #abuseawareness #traumarecovery #lies #abusiverelationship #psychopathy #narcissist #sociopaths #actionsspeaklouderthanwords #hesaid #conartist #iloveyou #fakelove #survivorofabuse #toxiclove #sicklove #cognitivedissonance #education #morethanwords #whenloveisalie

comment 1 star 8 4 hours ago

I’ve really learned to only give social media a small glimpse into my life, little by little. it can be a tool or an inhibitor. it can pass idle time or be a distraction. for a psychological abuser it is a weapon. my abuser took a photo of me, a couple friends, and my daughter and cropped out the girlfriend and left my guy friend in it and posted it and said that i left him for another man. it was clearly during one of his drug induced states because it was posted in the early hours of the morning then later taken down. if you are in the process of recovery be careful how much you divulge about your life. as tempting as it is to post about your new place/adventures/relationships know that a narcissistic psychological abuser is probably watching through fake accounts or loyal “flying monkeys.” the least information you give on what you’re doing, where you are, or who your with the more you protect yourself💜
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#narcissist #toxicrelationships #abuse #enddomesticviolence #dvsurvivor #domesticviolenceawareness #narcs #narccistawareness #abuse #psychologicalabuse #dvam#abuseawareness#domesticviolencesurvivor #domesticabuse #narcawareness #unhealthyrelationships#npdsurvivor#npd#npdawareness#npdabuseandrecovery#communication#respect#healthyrelationships#communicate#caring#comprehension#narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcabuserecovery #narcabusesurvivor #narcissisticabuserecovery

comment 2 star 12 5 hours ago

I pray one day i can have this connection & bond with love ❤️ i’ve never had it before 💜

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comment 0 star 35 5 hours ago

‘i may not be perfect 👌🏽 but i’m limited edition’
this year i decided to be very open about some of my negative past experiences.
not as a victim but as a survivor and warrior. to show that regardless of terrible traumatic experiences you can still have success and be happy.
i stand for justice for those who have been r***d and sexually abused and always will. that’s why i jumped out of a plane to raise money for family matters. that’s why i have worked in the health and social care sector for 13 plus years. i am a professional that’s worked with abuse for this time that has more understanding of the varying degrees of abuse.

i don’t care 🤷🏽‍♀️ what race religion sexuality, position of power or celebrity you are some things are just wrong and being a predator of s****l abuse is. sometimes some debates aren’t just worth having as everyone does truly have a different perspective. so today i stopped myself when this got brought up against me when talking about the atrocities of paedophilic acts. for a moment i regretted ever saying anything ever then i realised... to speak up takes courage which i did do, but i did in the hope that just one ☝🏽 person may relate, that just one person knows that they are not on their own. to know that if you want you reclaim your life you can and take charge of it. #survivor #momentswithmaxine #warrior #standforjustice #metoo #abuseawareness #speakup #speakout #wrong #mentalhealthawareness #storytime #real #life #oneperson #difference

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comment 2 star 133 7 hours ago

Welcome to coaches corner. 🐝we are talking about clearing the clutter and how it helps intentionality and kick- out procrastination.
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🐝alot of people don't realize that procrastination is not a character trait, its a habit and once you rewire that habit loop, it changes.
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🐝hang with me till the end as i teach you how to kick that habit & replace it with a do it mentality.
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🐝hope you enjoy and utilize this resource to make 2020 your best year yet.
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🐝tell me what clutter, you would be cleaning out this week?
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#abuse #emotionalabuse #abusesurvivor #abusedwomen #abuserecovery #lifecoachforwomen #lifecoach #abuseawareness #narcissisticabuse #stopabuse #healingfromabuse #recoveryispossible #recoveryjourney #recoverycommunity #recoveryrocks #recoverycoach #transformationalcoach #transformationstory #coach #coachingonline #coachwomen #stopcrying #prisonreform #prisonlife #teachings #churchgirl #churchcommunity

comment 11 star 6 10 hours ago

Şiddetin nedenleri değil, sonucu vardır!

if there is violence, causes are not important!

#bizceofsayt #flörtşiddetininbelirtileri #aşırıkıskançlık #kıskançlık #warningsignsofdatingabuse #intensejealousy #jealousy #violence #abuse #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationship #flörtşiddeti #psikolojikşiddet #şiddetehayır #şiddetedurde #aşkkorkutmaz #aşkdeğilşiddet #aşk #gerçekaşk #gerçekaşkzenginleştirir #datingviolence #toxicrelationships #toxicrelationship #abuseawareness #datingabuse #datingabuseawareness

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comment 0 star 2 12 hours ago

They will always think they are the ones that are hurt, sorry to burst your bubble, but your line of thinking is wrong and the ones that pity these type of people are blind. especially when they denied help over and over! #justsaying #truthhurts #abusesurvivor #narcsurvivor #spreadtheword #dontpitythem #timetogrowup #abuseawareness

comment 0 star 3 13 hours ago

He stripped away my self-worth, layer by layer
until there was nothing left of my personality.
yet i never forgot about the girl who i used to be..
she lived inside my caged soul, waiting for the day i would set her free.
casting her light into my dark mind, hoping that i would see, flashes of a better life, glimpses of possibility.
i was never alone, because she believed in me.
#abuseawareness #survivor #unbreakable #1in4women #domesticviolence

comment 5 star 15 14 hours ago

This is my newest finished piece. she’s a color pallet i don’t play with often but i think she turned out splendidly! i revealed her for the first time at the event friday. she is still hanging @colorupwellnesscenter and is available for purchase!
remember anything sold during the month of november is 50% donated to @theinitiativecolorado.
her dimensions are 36x48 inches or 3x4 feet

#newartwork #paintmenickel #denverartist #denvercolorado #fineart #survivor #coloruptherapeutics
#paintmehealthy #contemporaryart
#figurativeart #feminist #femaleartist #activist #raisingawareness #abuseawareness
#figurepainting #unveilingselflove

comment 1 star 15 14 hours ago

🗝i cried today while watching a movie with my husband; it was a triggered response that i couldn’t control when i saw a man beat a woman in the movie, and i saw her face afterwards.🗝
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a knot formed in my stomach and i thought i was going to get sick...but all that came were tears.
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my husband, god bless his soul, is so patient with me when things like this happen. he understands that sometimes certain things unlock horrible memories for me that i have shoved deep down somewhere.
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honestly, i didn’t realize i was still sensitive to something like that. i see pictures of bruised faces all the time from the support groups i am in - but there was something about the way that the man in the movie reared his fist back...it was all too real for me.
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suddenly, i was a scared little girl cowering in the bathroom, peering out of the door jamb, watching my dad deliver blows to my mother’s face. and i remember her face. i remember how cowardly i was, and how hard it was for me to believe my dad had actually done that. i couldn’t breathe. i couldn’t cry then. what if he heard me crying? would he come after me?
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maybe today the tears i cried were the ones i needed to cry all those years ago. maybe if i had cried those tears when i needed to in the first place, i wouldn’t have become calloused and numb and i wouldn’t have continued to choose his side over hers. yes - i was still a daddy’s girl after that. can you believe it?
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i was today years old when i took another step in my healing journey in realizing that part of the reason i clung to my abuser was because swallowing my emotions in the moment created cognitive dissonance within my mind. i repeated that practice for many years and it grew worse and worse until he discarded me.
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you were not created to be physically violated. anyone who forces their will upon yours and physically violates you is a not only a predator and an abuser, but also a stealer of innocence and hope.
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if this is you, i am so sorry for what you went through. it is so hard sometimes to walk away from someone you believe loves you, or needs your help. but you should never be someone’s punching bag.

comment 13 star 179 15 hours ago

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comment 3 star 44 15 hours ago

Filming the youth online training videos with teens in our community! thank you so much to everyone involved #plantoprotect #training

comment 1 star 2 16 hours ago

As a therapist specializing in the recovery from hidden abuse, i have been witness to the deep pain caused by a toxic love interest or spouse ~ healing from hidden abuse

comment 14 star 505 17 hours ago

Did you know that the porn industry brings in more money than amazon, microsoft, google, apple, and yahoo?

this is a highly profitable, highly organized and highly sophisticated s*x trafficking business that operates in towns large and small, raking in upwards of $9.5 billion a year in the u.s. alone by abducting and selling young girls for sex.

the average age of those being trafficked is 13. yet as the head of a group that combats trafficking pointed out, “let’s think about what average means. that means there are children younger than 13. that means 8-, 9-, 10-year-olds.“ where did this appetite for young girls come from?
look around you.
young girls have been sexualized for years now in music videos, on billboards, in television ads, and in clothing stores. marketers have created a demand for young flesh and a ready supply of over-sexualized children.

so what can you do?
educate yourselves and your children about this growing menace in our communities.
stop feeding the monster: s*x trafficking is part of a larger continuum in america that runs the gamut from homelessness, poverty, and self-esteem issues to sexualized television, the glorification of a pimp/ho culture—what is often referred to as the pornification of america—and a billion dollar s*x industry built on the back of pornography, music, entertainment, etc.

full information: https://eraoflight.com/2019/05/06/the-essence-of-evil-sex-with-children-has-become-big-business-in-america/

#sextrafficking #children #stoprape #awareness #womenempowerment #childabuse #abuseawareness #sexindustry #p**n

comment 3 star 26 19 hours ago

Foie gras is abuse
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we saw so many injured, bleeding, limping ducks, desperately trying to liberate themselves from this hell on earth. due to forced feeding by violently shoving a tube down their throats, a lot of birds suffer from physical injuries. birds eating on their own have control over their muscle movements and digestion reflexes. forced feeding, however, comes with a lot of health risks. the tube which is inserted can cause injuries and bruises, as well as a perforation of the esophagus. injury can also be caused due to the food being too hot. infections can arise when food accidentally goes into their trachea. this can potentially lead to suffocation. because their liver is ten times the normal size, their lungs are crushed. they develop breathing difficulties and have difficulty moving. a lot of animals get diarrhea and reflux. by sitting on a metal wire, they can easily hurt their feet and cut them open as you can see in this video.
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belgium is one of the few european countries which still produces foie gras. in many other countries this is forbidden. the european union produces around 90% of foie gras globally. belgium is the 2nd biggest consumer. the liver is fattened by force feeding until it measures 10 times its original size. the ducks only live until they're 12 weeks old, while they can reach a natural age of 20 years. 10 to 20 times more ducks are being killed in the foie gras industry than in the animal agriculture industry.
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#foiegras#duck#ducks#duckfarmer#restaurant#restaurante#restaurantlife#restaurants#restaurantparis#frenchfood#france_holidays#delicatessen#delicacy#frenchdelicacy#animalliberation#animalrights#vegan#vegetarian#veganaf#tillallarefree#animalabuse#wildlifeonearth#sadposts#lovethemdonteatthem#abuseawareness#birdsofinstagram#animalsofinstagram#belgium#stoptheabuse

comment 35 star 241 23 hours ago

Foie gras is abuse
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we saw so many injured, bleeding, limping ducks, desperately trying to liberate themselves from this hell on earth. due to forced feeding by violently shoving a tube down their throats, a lot of birds suffer from physical injuries. birds eating on their own have control over their muscle movements and digestion reflexes. forced feeding, however, comes with a lot of health risks. the tube which is inserted can cause injuries and bruises, as well as a perforation of the esophagus. injury can also be caused due to the food being too hot. infections can arise when food accidentally goes into their trachea. this can potentially lead to suffocation. because their liver is ten times the normal size, their lungs are crushed. they develop breathing difficulties and have difficulty moving. a lot of animals get diarrhea and reflux. by sitting on a metal wire, they can easily hurt their feet and cut them open as you can see in this video.
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belgium is one of the few european countries which still produces foie gras. in many other countries this is forbidden. the european union produces around 90% of foie gras globally. belgium is the 2nd biggest consumer. the liver is fattened by force feeding until it measures 10 times its original size. the ducks only live until they're 12 weeks old, while they can reach a natural age of 20 years. 10 to 20 times more ducks are being killed in the foie gras industry than in the animal agriculture industry.
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this must stop now. foie gras is not a luxury, nor a delicacy. it is a product of violence and death.
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#foiegras#duck#ducks#duckfarmer#restaurant#restaurante#restaurantlife#restaurants#restaurantparis#frenchfood#france_holidays#delicatessen#delicacy#frenchdelicacy#animalliberation#animalrights#vegan#vegetarian#veganaf#tillallarefree#animalabuse#wildlifeonearth#sadposts#lovethemdonteatthem#abuseawareness#animalsofinstagram#belgium#stoptheabuse

comment 10 star 78 Yesterday

Did you know that it takes on average 7 attempts before someone experiencing abuse leaves? and you know what is the most common reason they aren’t able to leave? lack of support.
🤝when a friend/family member discloses they are experiencing abuse and you say one of these phrases, what they are hearing is that you don’t believe them, no one will, and that they should go back.
🗣what you can do is listen non-judgementally, provide tangible assistance and help them find resources & support.
🔗 for more of what you can do, read our blog post (link in bio).
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#nisahomes #endabuse #domesticabuseawareness #domesticabuse #familyabuse #familyviolence #domesticviolence #domesticabusesurvivor #survivor #enddv #speakup #canadiancharity #abuseawareness #dvawareness #violenceagainstwomen #muslimcharity

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Women can be narcissists. think mothers, daughters, sisters, bosses, friends, neighbors and girlfriends or wives.

they gas light you, blame you, shame you, and will publicly humiliate you.
they’ll easily and happily emasculate their husbands, sons, brothers, or coworkers.
their daughters & sons will never be “good enough” to them. this can lead to chronic low self esteem and issues later in life, and you’re well served getting therapy or coaching to bring forth the truth about you and get her voice out of your psyche.

many times with the female narcissist there are volatile explosions of anger to redirect the focus off of them and onto you. of course men do this too.

romantically they will use s*x as a weapon of control and punishment. this will be very disorienting to men as intermittent reinforcement takes hold.

we may not want to, but we have to think about our sons being vulnerable to this, especially when they are young.

many women with borderline personality disorder become very defensive when their narcissism is pointed out but it’s part of the disorder born out of survival. they have a pathological and almost violent fear of being abandoned. it’s an obsessive self-centered focus that is *understandable* but there’s never an excuse to abuse men or women because of this.

dialectical behavioral therapy is very successful when it comes to borderlines and they really deserve to keep that therapy going almost forever.
for a non-borderline female narcissist, there is no helping them as they are sociopathic just like the men.
don’t listen to their tear-downs especially when you know, in truth, that you’re not guilty of what they claim. you’ll find yourself endlessly trying to “prove” that you’re nice and loving. (continued 👇🏼)

comment 8 star 2 Yesterday

Women can be narcissists. think mothers, daughters, sisters, bosses, friends, neighbors and girlfriends or wives.

they gas light you, blame you, shame you, and will publicly humiliate you.
they’ll easily and happily emasculate their husbands, sons, brothers, or coworkers.
their daughters & sons will never be “good enough” to them. this can lead to chronic low self esteem and issues later in life, and you’re well served getting therapy or coaching to bring forth the truth about you and get her voice out of your psyche.

many times with the female narcissist there are volatile explosions of anger to redirect the focus off of them and onto you. of course men do this too.

romantically they will use s*x as a weapon of control and punishment. this will be very disorienting to men as intermittent reinforcement takes hold.

we may not want to, but we have to think about our sons being vulnerable to this, especially when they are young.

many women with borderline personality disorder become very defensive when their narcissism is pointed out but it’s part of the disorder born out of survival. they have a pathological and almost violent fear of being abandoned. it’s an obsessive self-centered focus that is *understandable* but there’s never an excuse to abuse men or women because of this.

dialectical behavioral therapy is very successful when it comes to borderlines and they really deserve to keep that therapy going almost forever.
for a non-borderline female narcissist, there is no helping them as they are sociopathic just like the men.
don’t listen to their tear-downs especially when you know, in truth, that you’re not guilty of what they claim. you’ll find yourself endlessly trying to “prove” that you’re nice and loving. (continued 👇🏼)

comment 2 star 12 Yesterday

We need to realize that women our not the only reason one that can be abused. it goes both ways..we need to find a way to address both.. #johnnydepp #deppheads #abuse #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #abuseawareness

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Project #sexualassault video is up and running! link in bio! message me with any questions!
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Project #sexualassault video is up and running! link in bio! message me with any questions!
#metoo #metoomovement #sexualabuse #awareness #abuseawareness #abuse #sexabuse #sexabusesurvivor #sexabuseawareness

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Project #sexualassault video is up and running! link in bio! message me with any questions!
#metoo #metoomovement #sexualabuse #awareness #abuseawareness #abuse #sexabuse #sexabusesurvivor #sexabuseawareness

comment 0 star 6 Yesterday

Mary cain reveals her experience with nop.
watch the full video (link in @runmarycain bio) “i was emotionally and physically abused by a system designed by alberto salazar and endorsed by nike” mary cain says. #repost #tracknews #trackworldnews #trackandfield #tracknfield #track #marycain #fastestwoman #abuseawareness #trackgirls #nike #runners #runnersofinstagram #runnerscommunity #runnersworld #runnerslife #tracklife #tracknation

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Animals are not ours to keep
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when you wear a fancy coat with real fur are you considering what those animals have to go through. well these are the consequences they have to face. it’s not ok so it’s time to make a change!
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#animalabuse #cruelty #savetheanimals #fur #skinningofanimals #leavethemalone #makeachange #abuseawareness #banhunting #bantheabuse

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Never....
a first love is someone you can’t forget. but a first love beings a psychopath is truly unforgettable. i’d have to lose my memory in order to stop thinking about him. his voice runs through my blood, his words run through my head, his touch runs through my heart. the impact he had was like no other. and believe me, i didn’t want it to be.. but what it was was just that. there things we cannot control and one of them is who we fall in love with. nobody ever told me a monster could sound sweet, could make you feel the best love you’ve ever known, could shower you with caring.. affection, gifts, defense, protection...
to then peel back the mask and reveal shoves, pushes, mocking, lies, deceit, dishonesty, strangulation, indifference, and manipulation.
we just don’t know sometimes. but because of this platform, we can know now. we can be educated, we can see the red flags. we can do better. and we can try with all our might, to let go of the one thing that we held onto so tightly.
let it go.
#holdmetight #trauma #traumabond #liar #traumabonding #ilovedyou #abuseawareness #educateyourself #redflags #sociopaths #lovebomb #psychopaths #narcissists #crazylove #conartist #narcissisticabuse #lovefraud #abusesurvivor #toxiclove #abusiverelationship #whenloveisalie

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He wanted me to be happy. he said it all the time. you’d think his wish for me to be happy would match his way of treating me.. but it didn’t the vast majority of the time. that’s why words are just words until they are proven and backed by action. our foundation resembled this demolished home.. broken, moldy, unlivable...
but he wanted us to thrive he said.
the condition of our relationship was dead.
the words kept me there, attached and bonded to the destruction that held me hostage. i would have done anything to keep the relationship i had with him, even if killed me, made me sick, was ugly, moldy, toxic and filthy. him... it was only him.
#traumabonding #traumabond #metaphor #abuseawareness #traumarecovery #lies #abusiverelationship #psychopathy #narcissist #sociopaths #actionsspeaklouderthanwords #hesaid #conartist #iloveyou #fakelove #survivorofabuse #toxiclove #sicklove #cognitivedissonance #education #morethanwords #whenloveisalie

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Empath nation! we are over 4,000 #empaths !!!✨✨✨i want to thank each and everyone one of you for being on this journey with me, for following, commenting, sharing, donating and consulting with me. i’m always so grateful for your caring messages and for trusting me to help you in your journey. i feel as though each time i share my story i also give a voice to other #survivors . although, our experiences may be similar, each situation is unique and sometimes it may require a more customized answer, solution or technique, if you’d like to go one on one with me, i’m available worldwide via whatsapp and i’m based in new york city, just send me a dm to schedule a session. if you have contributed to the page, thank you! if you haven’t yet and would like to do so and help those who need a private session, but can’t afford due to #financialabuse you can submit your donation via: zelle, paypal, cashapp or venmo by using the email: theempathnation@gmail.com or the qr code found in the highlights button of the page. thank you! 💖💖💖

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We had a bit of an incident the other day and it’s left james mia.
he wasn’t able to keep our host and a persecutor from interacting and it led to a bit of self harming behavior.
but on another note! a little came out to play! it was so sweet to witness💖
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Your friendly psa for the week.✌🏼

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You live, you learn.. & you don’t repeat 💜

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At first, the idea of "self-love" can seem so abstract. i've found that thinking of self-love as self-value makes the concept more concrete. once you can begin to identify how treating yourself with (or without) value feels, the easier it is to tell how in alignment your actions are with your healthiest self. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I'm not in a relationship for the first time since 2017, and it's great. i had a question on one of my q&a stories a while ago and it was "why don't you want a relationship?"
i've done some thinking about relationships at my age and i know it's not the best choice for me; i don't have time, i want to focus on my education and in a couple of years i'll be moving away for university. all a relationship would do is distract me from my goals and jeopardise my future.
i completely respect people who are in college or working towards their future who also maintain a relationship, and social life because it's so hard to balance it, and i just couldn't do that. i lack the time management skills. however, i also just don't want one. i'm still growing, learning and changing. i'm learning things about myself i didn't know, and improving myself slowly. i'm enjoying this journey, and until i am the best i can possibly be in that moment of time, i do not want to enter a relationship for both the other person's sake and my sake.
i want to learn how to be totally independent first, i want absolute freedom- i deserve better than to settle. i don't want to be trapped, and if i were to enter a relationship now that's how i would view myself. trapped. limited. compromised.
i know i have at least 10 years until i'll consider marriage since i have so much to focus on and build towards, i have plenty of time for a romantic relationship- that is not a priority. my priority is myself.
finally, i need to work on trusting properly and fully again while also maintaining critical thinking, this will be a long and tedious journey, and is possibly one of the bigger reasons as to why i'm so against getting in a relationship.
so, that's the answer to why i don't want a relationship. if you have any other reasons why you don't want a relationship, why being single or why you feel being in a relationship is best for you please comment below, i'd love to see them 💖
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Honouring remembrance day today. lest we forget. #plantoprotect

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One of the symptoms of cognitive dissonance is that we think by forgiving the d**n abusive monsters, that we are somehow a good person.
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we think, “maybe once he or she sees how forgiving i am they will change and know i won’t hurt them back. they can heal.”

nope!!! that’s faulty thinking.
it’s nice thinking.
it’s sweet thinking.

but faulty nonetheless. [regardless of your spiritual beliefs, feel free to see the following quote either as psychological wisdom or spiritual]

read this wisdom from matthew 7:6: "do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” jesus knows we have pearls (goodness in our hearts and actions) and that there are humans that are not only *undeserving* of them, but will hurt you in exchange.

twisted? yes! that’s how evil works.

also a d**n pig or dog has no idea what to do with and is not equipped to value pearls. abusers are the same. they *can not* value us long term. period.
and the idiots will trample them (and you/me) because we have no value to them.
oh yes, read that again! ☝🏼 so, as a person who has been abused, we must turn over every stone, and climb every mountain and claw our way back to seeing our own value and demand our value to be respected.

we do that by leaving. 👋🏻 and never turning back.
bluntly, and with love,
coach prime 🦋

comment 2 star 3 2 weeks ago

At the root of every unhealthy, toxic person and relationship is a dysfunction in the child-parent balance.

in unhealthy relationships someone is usually parenting the other.
narcissists are notorious for being the “child” in the relationship. it’s not obvious because they go from being dominant to helpless. but that’s what every 3 year old does. “no!! that’s mine!!! i’m the boss!!!” then? “wwaaa my tummy hurts!!! help meeeeeee!” and if we aren’t careful, us care-givers and people pleasers will end up “taking care of them” under the guise of:
-love
-pity
-healing them
-protection
-fear
but they are not children.
we are all responsible for growing ourselves up regardless if we had parents do that or not.

as parents?
we are training the littles to be responsible, balanced, healthy adults. not to raise “children”. we are to raise adults, that’s our job, end of story.
if you find yourself “parenting” an adult (employee, boss, friend, spouse, adult child, parent etc.) i’ll assert that you’re frustrated, overwhelmed, and suffering. why?

because that’s not what adults are supposed to do for other adults (aside from the elderly at the end of their life to varying degrees). you’re supposed to be enjoying life!
you’re out of whack and out of balance. the solution? boundaries, distance, and stop doing/allowing whatever is going on.
don’t mistake “parenting” an adult for showing compassion and care. they are worlds apart.
-coach prime 🦋

comment 2 star 5 2 weeks ago

I remember once sending a screenshot of what the definition of a lie is (me being precise). i remember thinking “what the hell am i doing? and is he really debating that *not* telling the truth is not a lie?” yes. yes he was.

crazy makers!!!! there is no reasoning with someone who eats, sleeps, and breathes deception.
-coach prime 🦋

comment 2 star 6 4 weeks ago

Do you have a plan? do you have your values, standards, and actions laid out for “what if” scenarios?

in this course i’ve designed i help you create your plans, with your values so that no matter what, your life stays on track.
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manipulators can be bosses
manipulators can be lovers
manipulators can be adult children
manipulators can be family 🤨
ya feel me? god said this world has corruption in it so.... no surprises here right?? now. are you ready?
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don’t you expect the police to be ready to protect you and your loved ones for when bad things happen?
yes you do.

maybe do the same for you and everyone you love like your children?

i prepare you for when and guess what?

that’s not all about gloom and doom. nope!
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it’s about inner strength and preparedness.
you know what that provides by default?? —->😇 peace of mind.

we create your “internal security system” so you can sleep well at night, live through your days with confidence and have a future you want, not one you fell into.
fab isn’t it? oh yes it is!

register now for $30 off the course!!! link in bio 👆🏻
love,
coach prime 🦋

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Boom!! 💥

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Repost @coachprime
it’s true. listen. you can handle all of your bugaboos, habits, and automatic negative thoughts/reactions in a way that you’re prepared for them and then aim for a future that amazes you!

just look down at your foot for a second.
please, just humor me okay? look at your foot. okay thank you. now.... is there some rope/chain/tether tied to it called “the past” somehow magically hooked onto the year 2007 (or whatever your “bad year/s are)? no there isn’t. i know!! right?? oh thank god because that would suuuck!!!!! so perhaps stop living like there’s one? because as you can see... it’s not there.

you
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free.

love,
coach prime 🦋

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