I appreciate the intention of this very much. for me personally, what’s more important though, is to help my children to learn how to fill up their self esteem bucket themselves because we aren’t always going to be around for them. they can learn the skills of resilience which protects them from things they cannot control.
The difficulty is that most parents are taught that building self esteem lies in rewarding or genetically praising children when in fact this creates dependency on others for esteem. focusing on growth mindset and the huge capability and resilience they show is more important. they need to be able to create this themselves from our support and example
I don't believe parents can give children self-esteem. i do believe we can love them unconditionally and be there to comfort and support them. we can help them discover their strengths and passions and then nurture those gifts. we can teach them to be independent, respectful, and responsible, and in turn they will develop healthy self-esteem.
Wow. this is so good. we give them the tools to make sure they have confidence and self-esteem.